Coming Home to Myself This Month

Kathleen Nower
Nov 3
3 min read

This month feels like a threshold into remembering — a quiet doorway into deeper clarity, deeper self-trust, and deeper inner anchoring.

What’s rising in me right now is the reminder that true change happens when I am connected to myself.Not when I’m striving.Not when I’m forcing.Not when I'm chasing the version of me I think I should be.

When I’m listening inward, when I’m rooted, when I'm honoring my own rhythm — that’s when I expand.

And I’ll be honest… it wasn’t always this way.

For a long time, I thought I had to gather every tool, follow every practice, absorb every piece of “wisdom” floating around the wellness space. I believed that if I wasn’t doing all the things, then I wasn’t doing enough. I was swimming in a sea of “you should,” “you need to,” and “this is the only way.” There’s so much out there for us to consume. Everyone is offering us the answer to our problems.

And instead of feeling empowered, I felt overwhelmed.

I felt:

like I was always behind,
like everyone else had the answers,
like my own wisdom wasn’t trustworthy,
like I had to fix myself, not meet myself.

It’s wild how easy it is to lose our center in the pursuit of “self-improvement.”

The truth is, I didn’t need more tools.I need

ed more trust.

In my experience, I don’t find clarity when I’m offered an answer.

Revelations come when I ask myself the right questions.

I didn’t need more voices in my head.I needed to hear my own.

I didn’t need to become someone else.I needed to come home — to who I already am.

My Intention This Month: Inner Focus + Clarity

This month, I’m giving myself permission to simplify.To tune in deeply.To move from intuition, not expectation.

Here’s what that looks like for me:

Less noise, more presence

I’m cutting social media way down — not as a punishment, not as a strict rule, but as a gift to my nervous system.

No more mindless scrolling.No more absorbing other people’s paths and mistaking them for my own.

Instead, I'm choosing:

conversations that matter
meeting new people and creating new connections
putting myself out there in my actual life
Feeling into what resonates in reality
sharing energy in spaces where it can be felt — not just noticed
Posting what/when it feels good

Tuning inward before moving outward

Before I act, plan, decide, or say yes, I’m checking in by dropping into my expanded self. Breathing in this space and asking:

Is this aligned with me?Is this coming from inner knowing or outside pressure?Is this mine to carry?

Instead of asking,“What do other people say works?”I’m asking,“What is true for me?”

My intuition is wiser than the algorithm — and yours is too.

One honest day at a time

I’m not trying to become a “perfect” version of myself this month.

I’m not reaching, striving, or labeling myself as someone I'm not yet.

I’m simply showing up for the day in front of me.

Listening to my body.Honoring my energy.Choosing small habits because they feel good and because I deserve to do things that honor my body, mind and spirit — not because they check a box or change the way I label myself.

Not every season is a transformation sprint.Some seasons are gentle returns.Some months are dedicated not to becoming — but remembering.

Some things don’t need to be shared.Some rituals can be sacred.Some growth is quiet, private, and deeply personal.

Journal Prompts for November

If clarity and inner connection were guiding you this month:

What would feel different in your daily life?
What choices would shift if you trusted yourself more?
Where could you soften instead of strive?
What would you do if wellness wasn't something to perform, but something to embody?
How can you gift yourself presence instead of pressure?
Who do you become when you slow down long enough to hear your own wisdom?