Balance: A New Definition of Highest Self

Redefining My Highest Self

For a long time, I misunderstood what it meant to step into my highest Self. I believed it meant being flawless—waking up at 5 AM every day, never skipping a workout, eating perfectly clean, excelling in my career, and maintaining routines with zero room for error.

I thought “highest” meant I had to perform at 110% at all times, no matter the cost.

And honestly? That belief was terrifying.

It left me caught between extremes—like I had to choose between being Rory Gilmore-level disciplined or living in chaos like a character from Euphoria. There was no in-between, no space for me to just be human.

The Shift

As I started reflecting more deeply, I realized something important:

Why would I want to pursue this idea of a “highest Self” if it left no room for mistakes, laughter, fun, or spontaneity?

That wasn’t growth—it was pressure disguised as self-improvement.

So, I started rewriting the definition. For me, highest Self began to mean authentic Self—the version of me that feels most aligned, balanced, and true.

What Authenticity Looks Like

When I began prioritizing authenticity, things shifted:

• I gave myself permission to listen to my body instead of forcing routines that didn’t serve me.

• I allowed flexibility, asking: Does this choice align with who I really am?

• I focused on nurturing my mind, body, and spirit, instead of trying to control them.

This didn’t make me “less disciplined”—it made me intentional. My goals started flowing with ease, because they came from a place of genuine desire, not fear of failure.

Self-Love = Balance

Coming home to yourself means recognizing the difference between ego and authenticity. The ego tells us we’re only worthy if we’re “the best.” Authenticity reminds us that we’re already worthy.

Once I let go of the pressure to do everything and be everything, I found clarity. My why behind my goals became stronger. I trusted that I wouldn’t fail—not because I was perfect, but because I was aligned.

An Invitation for You

So, here’s your reminder: give yourself grace. You are a human being, not a machine. You don’t have to earn your worth by being endlessly productive.

Instead, ask yourself:

• Where can I soften and let go?

• Where can I release unnecessary pressure?

• Where can I invite more ease, more joy, more me into my days?

Your highest Self isn’t a flawless version of you—it’s the truest version of you. And when you honor that, life flows in a way that feels sustainable, expansive, and deeply your own.

You’ve got this.